5. Sorry

Before I begin, I want to thank each and every one of you for the love you have been showering on my blog recently. Means a lot. I’m glad to announce that we have crossed the ‘900 followers’ mark. Thank you all, once again.

Dear readers,

This week, as I am having a sip of my black coffee on my bed, next to the window, I thought I shall write about what the word ‘sorry‘ means and how we don’t mean it when we say sorry. And I won’t deny, I have said sorry and not meant it. But, once I realised what I was doing, I immediately stopped. And now, I say sorry when I mean it or when I have a reason to be sorry.

Sometimes, when I don’t say sorry when people are expecting me to or when I am not really sorry, they call me ‘stubborn’ or ‘too big for my pants’ or ‘arrogant’. And when I say sorry when I mean it, they don’t really believe me or they don’t accept my sorry for reasons unknown to me.

People don’t say sorry because sometimes they are ashamed to say sorry or that by saying sorry they would lose all self respect. Saying sorry, doesn’t mean that you are putting yourself down. If anything, it shows how mature and sensible you are, to accept that you made a mistake.

With that being said, I would encourage every one who is reading this to “say sorry, only if you mean it”. Because if you don’t mean it, the word loses it’s meaning and purpose. But this doesn’t mean you don’t say or be sorry when it’s necessary. You have to say sorry if you did something you are sorry about.

At times, people live in denial, where they just won’t ever accept that they made a mistake. And sometimes people go into denial when it isn’t even necessary. Okay, yes, you fucked up. Just say sorry and deal with the consequences. To be honest, you brought those consequences upon yourself when you screwed up. Accept it and move on. Don’t drag it and ruin the future and the lives of people around you.

Yes, I completely agree. What if you did something grave? Nobody will ever forgive you. Well, if you are truly sorry, say it. And show it. Prove it to the people whose trust you’ve lost and show them that you have changed and you regret doing what you did. And if they truly want you back into their lives, they’ll forgive you, but if they don’t, then there is nothing you can do about it. But if you’re not sorry, then there is nothing to be sorry about and don’t say sorry just for the heck of it.

Don’t pretend to be sorry, when you are not. And don’t pretend to be not sorry, when you are. Because sometimes life is too short to make people guess if you are really sorry or not. And it’s stupid, if I’m honest.

So, I think I’d like to end this Sunday’s blog by reiterating myself and telling you to “say sorry, only if you truly are”. Thank you all for reading my posts. I would encourage each and every one of you to like, comment and share. Have a great week ahead.

Regards,
Realistic Beginner.

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28 thoughts on “5. Sorry

  1. Hi Realistic Beginner,
    Thank you so much for liking my post! 🙂
    What is wonderful about it is that through your like I got a chance to find out about your amazing blog!
    I really enjoyed reading your posts, specifically this one. Sorry is something I have thought about as well, in the past. This post definitely arose those thoughts and for me, it’s also a reminder of being present and genuine in different situations we are faced with.

    Learn with meraki (BeingOT blogger) 🙂

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